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Stoma Mythbusters: Nigel Davidson

18 September, 2025

Busting Myths About Life With a Stoma

 

When I look back at my journey, the biggest obstacles weren’t just physical—they were the myths I believed about life with a stoma. For years, these misconceptions shaped my decisions and delayed surgery that ultimately gave me my life back.

Myth 1: The Equipment is Poor Quality

Back in 1995, when I had a temporary stoma during my 3-part J-pouch surgery, the bags and fixings were frankly a nightmare. Leaks, poor adhesion, constant anxiety—it felt unmanageable. So when my J-pouch started to fail around 2015/16 and I considered elective surgery, my biggest fear was returning to those same struggles.

What I didn’t realise—and wasn’t told—was how much the technology had improved. Fast-forward to 2018, when a bowel cancer diagnosis made the decision for me, I was astonished by the difference. The equipment was far superior: reliable, comfortable, discreet. Nearly seven years on, I can honestly say I’ve had very few issues.

Myth 2: A Stoma Limits Your Life

Before surgery, my failing pouch was making everyday life almost impossible. Walking, travelling, even leaving the house became overwhelming. I was losing muscle strength, confidence, and independence. Trips that should have been enjoyable—like weekends in London—were overshadowed by the fear of leakage and exhaustion.

The truth? My stoma gave me my life back. Since surgery, I’ve not only returned to the activities I love, I’ve gone further than I thought possible:

  • Mountain walks and long beach walks with my dogs

  • Walking football

  • Sea kayaking in Cornwall

  • Snorkelling off the coast of Majorca

  • Charity challenges for Crohn’s & Colitis UK—from 10k walks to marathons

  • Holding down a demanding senior-level job

  • Volunteering with the Football Association and other organisations

Far from restricting me, my stoma has been the key to a full, active, and rewarding life.

Final Thoughts

If you’re facing surgery, or worried about what life with a stoma might mean, don’t let outdated myths hold you back. Equipment has improved dramatically, and the opportunities for activity and independence are far greater than you might think.

For me, a stoma wasn’t the end of my freedom—it was the beginning of getting it back.

How You Can Get Involved

  • Share the myths you’ve heard about stomas—and help us spread the truth that busts them.

  • Become a MythBusters case study like Ruth—show others what’s possible with lived experience.

  • Spread the word locally—help distribute MythBusters packs and flyers to challenge stigma in your community.

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